Today I wanna write about the blessing that is to be yourself. Sadly,many people underestimate the value that's there is just being true to who you really are and that really makes me annoyed,especially when you try to pretend you are something you are clearly not...I mean really!! What exactly are u trying to prove here?? And in the end,when the truth comes out into the open all that is left of you is hurt,humiliation and shame..How you can knowingly put yourself through such agony ,I fail to understand.
Such things happen everyday and sometimes it pains me to think how people who act differently think they wont ever get caught,for instance; I had this friend who liked a guy very much and had been pinning her hopes to date him. This bloke was really good looking and charming and she figured he would make her ideal partner. The only problem was that they had altogether different personalities and they didn't seem to agree on most subjects even as friends!! I shuddered at the thought of how things would be between then if they ever hooked up.But again,she was my friend and I had even told her clearly that I didn't think they would be happy together if at all they started dating,but my friend was adamant !! All she could see was his pretty face and solid charm..I was sad at the prospects of things but I couldn't do much about it and decided to let it go and let time take its course hoping that my friend would eventually understand that this was not right.But She was so obsessed with him she started pretending to like stuff he did when she didn't even have a clue what they actually were,for example ,he liked rap music and hard metal which she absolutely detested...but she would try and learn the names of the artists and start a discussion with him hoping they would click. But what happened was that the more she tried to impress him by showing him what she clearly wasn't she began to get irritated and annoyed.She'd start flaring up at the slightest provocation and this in turn led the guy to believe that she didn't want to be friends anymore !! Just the opposite OF WHAT SHE THOUGHT SHE COULD ACHIEVE BY FAKING IT! He stopped talking to her and as time went by he stopped all contact with her and would immediately start off in the opposite direction whenever she was around..So the whole thing backfired and my friend simply couldn't understand what she did wrong to scare him away like that...so you see, love never works when things are fake ,you have to be true and sincere to the other person and let him see who you really are.Only then will he appreciate you and love you the way you are and actually want to be with you..The point is you have to be yourself and stop pretending to be something you are not especially if you plan on staying together and having a serious relationship ...and the same thing applies in your professional life too..you have to realise that you cant keep cheating people for a long time and hoping that they wont notice.They will eventually see through your facade because the truth doesn't stay hidden for long..so its better you save yourself all the drama,hurt and shame and start being yourself..and its just not about the fall in your image...its more about the fact that you will be happy being true to who you are coz you will have a clear conscience and not feel guilty about deceiving people..so let your heart out and allow people to see the real you..and believe me,it's only then you realise who your true friends are and who cares what happens to you because people will start loving the real you!! So be real,be true and let your heart take wings..this is what i believe and it is my constant endeavour to gift the world a true smile :)
Such things happen everyday and sometimes it pains me to think how people who act differently think they wont ever get caught,for instance; I had this friend who liked a guy very much and had been pinning her hopes to date him. This bloke was really good looking and charming and she figured he would make her ideal partner. The only problem was that they had altogether different personalities and they didn't seem to agree on most subjects even as friends!! I shuddered at the thought of how things would be between then if they ever hooked up.But again,she was my friend and I had even told her clearly that I didn't think they would be happy together if at all they started dating,but my friend was adamant !! All she could see was his pretty face and solid charm..I was sad at the prospects of things but I couldn't do much about it and decided to let it go and let time take its course hoping that my friend would eventually understand that this was not right.But She was so obsessed with him she started pretending to like stuff he did when she didn't even have a clue what they actually were,for example ,he liked rap music and hard metal which she absolutely detested...but she would try and learn the names of the artists and start a discussion with him hoping they would click. But what happened was that the more she tried to impress him by showing him what she clearly wasn't she began to get irritated and annoyed.She'd start flaring up at the slightest provocation and this in turn led the guy to believe that she didn't want to be friends anymore !! Just the opposite OF WHAT SHE THOUGHT SHE COULD ACHIEVE BY FAKING IT! He stopped talking to her and as time went by he stopped all contact with her and would immediately start off in the opposite direction whenever she was around..So the whole thing backfired and my friend simply couldn't understand what she did wrong to scare him away like that...so you see, love never works when things are fake ,you have to be true and sincere to the other person and let him see who you really are.Only then will he appreciate you and love you the way you are and actually want to be with you..The point is you have to be yourself and stop pretending to be something you are not especially if you plan on staying together and having a serious relationship ...and the same thing applies in your professional life too..you have to realise that you cant keep cheating people for a long time and hoping that they wont notice.They will eventually see through your facade because the truth doesn't stay hidden for long..so its better you save yourself all the drama,hurt and shame and start being yourself..and its just not about the fall in your image...its more about the fact that you will be happy being true to who you are coz you will have a clear conscience and not feel guilty about deceiving people..so let your heart out and allow people to see the real you..and believe me,it's only then you realise who your true friends are and who cares what happens to you because people will start loving the real you!! So be real,be true and let your heart take wings..this is what i believe and it is my constant endeavour to gift the world a true smile :)
